Foundations to how I made myself have a fulfilled life
I’m constantly getting asked how it is that I am so happy and seem to have such a fulfilled life. Well here are some of basic foundations or if you prefer you can call them values, or principals to how I have made this transformation over the last 2 and ½ years.
Keep life simple. I use this everyday from the way I dress, to how my home is appointed, to how I speak to folks. SIMPLE is easy and no hassle which means less stress for me.
Practice being satisfied. I’m thrilled and delighted with what I have, sure I want to continue to grow but I am satisfied everyday with where I am at right now, what I have, and the friends I have. Makes life GREAT!
Beware of indecision. Indecision leads to disappointment, and heartache. I’m not saying go make decisions without the facts but gain the facts, and make the best decision and move on. Do not second guess yourself or be indecisive for long. In 2006 I had to make the hardest decision ever, the decision to put my husband into hospice and discontinue lifesaving measures. For years I agonized over that decision, I had to stop second guessing it and just know I did what was best for him.
Practice cheerfulness. It’s so important. Being happy is a choice, being cheerful makes everyone around you be the same way. Think about this- what would our world be like right now if everyone practice cheerfulness? What a different place we’d be living in.
Learn to like people. I hear from a lot of my friends and family members the phase “I hate people” and I say REALLY??? Think about this – 65% of all communication is NON verbal. So if you say “I hate people” do you real think that others don’t know that? How would you like to walk into your next Drs appointment and “feel” the person at the first desk be saying under her breathe “I hate people”. People make our lives more full and fun. You do not have to like everyone you met but learn to like people in general. You will be adding life to your life.
Live and let live – Who are you to judge anyone 1. I try not to be judgmental of the people I meet or the folks in my life. It is not my place to place judgment on anyone, nor is it their place to place judgment on me. Live and let live…. For me there is one 1 being that can Judge any of us and that is God.
Adversity teaches. I have on my desk the story of the butterfly – the story goes that the breed was excited to see his butterfly begin to emerge from its cocoon, the butterfly was struggling to free it’s self from cocoon, this went on for hours, the butterfly had pulled 1 wing out of the cocoon, the breeder could not take it anymore he used his own fingers to open the rest of the cocoon to free the butterfly. While the butterfly was beautiful it could never fly correctly because it never developed the muscle in that 1 wing, for it’s the struggle to release its self from the cocoon that it develops the muscles it needs to fly. I have had a lot of adversity in my life, and I would not trade any of them for a second- for each 1 has gotten me to where and who I am today.
Don’t take yourself so seriously. A number of years ago someone told me I needed to lighten up, and they weren’t talking about my weight. I was once very serious and never laughed at anything. Today I love to laugh and can’t get enough of it. Laugher really does add to your life. I try to laugh at every day.
Have a sense of purpose. Having a purpose is more than a goal or series of goals. Having a purpose is having a drive, a reason, a sense that makes you get up every day and go forward. If you need to write yourself a Purpose statement and read it every day then do so.
Practice objectivity. Be objective in your decision-making and risk-taking. Know the facts and avoid letting racial, social, or any other type of bias influence your decisions. Great leaders perform their best when they act based on facts, not on emotion or prejudices. Become a great leader for your life. I make decisions based on the facts, and not on feelings, I do this with every decision in my life, from what to have for lunch to which TV to purchase. Weight the FACTS, not your emotions. Be objective not emotional. Now that I look back it was an objective decision I made in December of 2006.
Tolerate your own mistakes. You will make mistakes – in fact, you will make so many mistakes you will never be able to list them all. Learn from them and then MOVE on. Do not dwell on them or let the idea of making a mistake stop you from going for what you want. I have made so many mistakes in my life, and when I stopped and thought about it each one was an incredible learning experience, I gather the lessons and move forward.
Forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up over things that happened in the past - things you did or didn’t do, and mistakes you may have made with others or with yourself. JUST STOP IT. Forgive yourself first. Then others. Most people do not know that I nearly went insane after my Dad died. I blamed myself for his death, I felt I should have seen the signs, I felt I could have been a better daughter. Within 6 weeks of my Dad passing my Husband had a series of strokes and I blamed myself for that too. I had to find it in myself to forgive myself for whatever it was I thought I had done to cause any of these events.
Forgiving yourself is a skill so few of us have the ability to accomplish. It's such a shame that we spent a lifetime living in the past and never make it to our full potential in the future. Forgive yourself – and just as importantly, forgive others.
There you have it. Really not secrets just common sense things that I choose to live my life by. These things have helped me develop into the person I have always wanted to be. Following them will help you too.
There are many ideas on this journey; many do not have to be difficult. Making changes are easy, thinking about change is hard.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Vuja De your life
Vuja De your life
A good friend sent me a YouTube link early this week of Inspirational speaker- Simon T Bailey. WOW is all I can say. Vuja De is his key phrase; he talks about shifting your thinking to alter your life.
I have talked about this before, I had to alter how I thought about myself to be able to move on with getting the life I want. I’m not totally there yet but I’m a work in progress, and far far closer then I was 280 some pounds ago. NO the weight is not the only factor.
I have not been shy about the fact that I used to consider myself worthless. It has taken time; work, patience, understanding and a great coach to help me get passed that. I Vuja De my life…
The weight loss has been a byproduct of the altering of my life, I now have a self value, a self worth and a healthy self esteem. My question is HOW IS YOURS?
One of the things the Simon talks about is building the relationships. Personally I think 1 of the most important relationship we need to build is the 1 with ourselves. What is your relationship with yourself? Is it a good one, do you say positive things to yourself? Or about yourself?
I really suggest you take a look at Simon Bailey’s YouTube- http://www.youtube.com/simontbailey#p/u/13/_m7cwfusr3g
You will love them.
Be nice to yourself, you’re the only you that you will ever get.
What is happening to you on your journey?
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
A good friend sent me a YouTube link early this week of Inspirational speaker- Simon T Bailey. WOW is all I can say. Vuja De is his key phrase; he talks about shifting your thinking to alter your life.
I have talked about this before, I had to alter how I thought about myself to be able to move on with getting the life I want. I’m not totally there yet but I’m a work in progress, and far far closer then I was 280 some pounds ago. NO the weight is not the only factor.
I have not been shy about the fact that I used to consider myself worthless. It has taken time; work, patience, understanding and a great coach to help me get passed that. I Vuja De my life…
The weight loss has been a byproduct of the altering of my life, I now have a self value, a self worth and a healthy self esteem. My question is HOW IS YOURS?
One of the things the Simon talks about is building the relationships. Personally I think 1 of the most important relationship we need to build is the 1 with ourselves. What is your relationship with yourself? Is it a good one, do you say positive things to yourself? Or about yourself?
I really suggest you take a look at Simon Bailey’s YouTube- http://www.youtube.com/simontbailey#p/u/13/_m7cwfusr3g
You will love them.
Be nice to yourself, you’re the only you that you will ever get.
What is happening to you on your journey?
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Life lessons learned from a 3 year old kitty
Life lessons learned from a 3 year old kitty
My Ariel kitty turned 3 this week. I started thinking about her and how she interacts with the world after reading my friend Dr. Bourla’s tribute this is kitty when he passed away.
So here are the things Ariel is teaching me:
* Never be afraid to explore new things- you never know what fun you might find in something that seems strange at first.
* When meeting new people access them from a distance for a short time – then greet them with a warm and friendly welcome
* Naps in the sunshine are the best thing in the world
* Never be afraid to show affection to the people you love
* Find a warm spot and curl there to sleep
* Always stretch before you get out of bed in the morning
* Play often and with different things
* And most importantly- Be a source of unconditional love to all in your life
Ariel has been with me since she was 9 weeks old, she still runs about like she did then. She really is a source of unconditional love for me.
The last couple of weeks have been very stressful for me, yet when I come home at night she is standing on the back of the chair by the door ever so happy to see me, she rubs around my legs as I get settled in, when I retire for the night she purrs herself to sleep on my chest.
I have learned far more than I ever thought from this cat. Life lessons that will help me be a better and happier person in the future.
Everyone needs a pet to share this journey with.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sunday, April 17, 2011
12 Secrets to living a full filled life
I have been asked a lot lately how I keep such a positive attitude, how I can be so happy and upbeat so much of the time. Well not to sound trite but I have 12 secrets that I try to remember to always live by. So tonight I am going to share them with you:
• 1-Try everything twice. On one woman's tombstone she said she wanted this epitaph:
"Tried everything twice. Loved it both times!" Why twice- the first time with anything is usually awkward and uncomfortable. The second time gives you a better experience with it, whatever it is.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. (Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!) I try to surround myself with happy, positive, successful, kind people. Positive people breed positive people. Surround yourself with people that are the way you want to be. Keep learning: Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever...
3-Never let the brain get idle. 'An idle mind is beginning of death. I love learning, I read books, take classes, engage in conversations with people that are smarter or more knowledgeable them me. It keeps my mind working and busy.
4. Enjoy the simple things. A walk in a spring rain, the laughter of a child, the smell of roses or of fresh cut grass. Find the enjoyment in the basic and simple things of life. There is joy there to be had.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with HIM/HER. I love to laugh; there are plenty of times I will laugh so hard I make myself cry. It’s the greatest feeling ever. Currently the Big Bang Theory on Thursday nights is the show that makes me laugh so hard. It’s great.
6. The tears happen: Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. LIVE while you are alive. In the course of 10 years I lost my Mom, Dad, Mother in law, Grandmother in law, Grandfather and Husband. Each was significant losses for me. I gave myself time to grieve, I cried, I mourned and then I moved on to live this life. Life must go forward. There is no idle in life, there is no backward either.
7. Surround yourself with what you love: Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, and hobbies, whatever... For me I have tons of books, I love books, I love my nick knacks, for each 1 reminds me of something fun and pleasant, whether it was trip, my parents, my grandparents, a special friend, the birth of my God daughter, my nephews, etc. Be with the things you love the most. After all your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help. As you all know I am firm believer in Chiropractic care. Chiropractic is the best form of health care out there; it’s the only true HEALTH care. It will help you maintain your body so you can live a long and healthy life.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county, to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is. Guilt is destructive and serves no really purpose. I try to learn from my mistakes and do better the next time, but I do not live in guilt. It’s just not healthy.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. I love you, are the 3 most powerful words in our language. Who do you love? And how often do you tell them that you love them? I strive to let the folks I love know that I love them. I love my friends, I love my family. It’s only in the act of giving love that, I love my family. It’s only in the act of giving love that you get it back.
11. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second chance. Forgiveness is so very important. Start with yourself. Then forgive anyone else in your life that you feel has wronged you. FORGIVENESS is the key to freedom, and life fulfillment.
12- To Thy own self be true… What does that mean that means always always follow your heart, your brain and your own values? Do not be talked into anything you do not feel right about doing.
This journey is easier if you know what you want, have a strong value system and know how to laugh.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
• 1-Try everything twice. On one woman's tombstone she said she wanted this epitaph:
"Tried everything twice. Loved it both times!" Why twice- the first time with anything is usually awkward and uncomfortable. The second time gives you a better experience with it, whatever it is.
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. (Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!) I try to surround myself with happy, positive, successful, kind people. Positive people breed positive people. Surround yourself with people that are the way you want to be. Keep learning: Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever...
3-Never let the brain get idle. 'An idle mind is beginning of death. I love learning, I read books, take classes, engage in conversations with people that are smarter or more knowledgeable them me. It keeps my mind working and busy.
4. Enjoy the simple things. A walk in a spring rain, the laughter of a child, the smell of roses or of fresh cut grass. Find the enjoyment in the basic and simple things of life. There is joy there to be had.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with HIM/HER. I love to laugh; there are plenty of times I will laugh so hard I make myself cry. It’s the greatest feeling ever. Currently the Big Bang Theory on Thursday nights is the show that makes me laugh so hard. It’s great.
6. The tears happen: Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. LIVE while you are alive. In the course of 10 years I lost my Mom, Dad, Mother in law, Grandmother in law, Grandfather and Husband. Each was significant losses for me. I gave myself time to grieve, I cried, I mourned and then I moved on to live this life. Life must go forward. There is no idle in life, there is no backward either.
7. Surround yourself with what you love: Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, and hobbies, whatever... For me I have tons of books, I love books, I love my nick knacks, for each 1 reminds me of something fun and pleasant, whether it was trip, my parents, my grandparents, a special friend, the birth of my God daughter, my nephews, etc. Be with the things you love the most. After all your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help. As you all know I am firm believer in Chiropractic care. Chiropractic is the best form of health care out there; it’s the only true HEALTH care. It will help you maintain your body so you can live a long and healthy life.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county, to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is. Guilt is destructive and serves no really purpose. I try to learn from my mistakes and do better the next time, but I do not live in guilt. It’s just not healthy.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. I love you, are the 3 most powerful words in our language. Who do you love? And how often do you tell them that you love them? I strive to let the folks I love know that I love them. I love my friends, I love my family. It’s only in the act of giving love that, I love my family. It’s only in the act of giving love that you get it back.
11. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second chance. Forgiveness is so very important. Start with yourself. Then forgive anyone else in your life that you feel has wronged you. FORGIVENESS is the key to freedom, and life fulfillment.
12- To Thy own self be true… What does that mean that means always always follow your heart, your brain and your own values? Do not be talked into anything you do not feel right about doing.
This journey is easier if you know what you want, have a strong value system and know how to laugh.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sunday, April 10, 2011
All you need is love
All you need is love
(Love, love, love)
(Love, love, love)
(Love, love, love)
There's nothing you can do that can't be done
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy
There's nothing you can make that can't me made
No one you can save that can't be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It's easy
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
(Love, love, love)
(Love, love, love)
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
There's nothing you can know that isn't known
Nothing you can see that isn't shown
There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be
It's easy
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
All you need is love, all together now
All you need is love, everybody
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
Love is all you need
Love is all you need
Love is all you need
This amazing Beatles Song was the theme for the Seminar in Orlando I just attended. Parker Chiropractic Seminars are always amazing this one however really struck home for me. Not only do I keep hearing all you need is love, but I also kept hearing that right now I am in the place I need to be with the right people around me for a reason.
Think about that for a moment. I was surrounded by intelligent, successful Chiropractors and Chiropractic assistance all weekend. People that have had struggles, and made them into successes, folks that have had to pick themselves up by their boot straps.
It got me thinking about the other people in my life. My boss, my friends, my coach, they are in my life right now for a reason. And they are right where they need to be for me and for themselves.
People come to us for all kind of reasons. I have been told so many times that when the student is truly ready the Master shall appear. This has happened so many times in my life.
Think about it, who is in your life right now, and for what reason are they there?
All we really do need is love. Love for our family, friends, and mostly ourselves.
This journey is about love.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
(Love, love, love)
(Love, love, love)
(Love, love, love)
There's nothing you can do that can't be done
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy
There's nothing you can make that can't me made
No one you can save that can't be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It's easy
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
(Love, love, love)
(Love, love, love)
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
There's nothing you can know that isn't known
Nothing you can see that isn't shown
There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be
It's easy
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
All you need is love, all together now
All you need is love, everybody
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
Love is all you need
Love is all you need
Love is all you need
This amazing Beatles Song was the theme for the Seminar in Orlando I just attended. Parker Chiropractic Seminars are always amazing this one however really struck home for me. Not only do I keep hearing all you need is love, but I also kept hearing that right now I am in the place I need to be with the right people around me for a reason.
Think about that for a moment. I was surrounded by intelligent, successful Chiropractors and Chiropractic assistance all weekend. People that have had struggles, and made them into successes, folks that have had to pick themselves up by their boot straps.
It got me thinking about the other people in my life. My boss, my friends, my coach, they are in my life right now for a reason. And they are right where they need to be for me and for themselves.
People come to us for all kind of reasons. I have been told so many times that when the student is truly ready the Master shall appear. This has happened so many times in my life.
Think about it, who is in your life right now, and for what reason are they there?
All we really do need is love. Love for our family, friends, and mostly ourselves.
This journey is about love.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sunday, April 3, 2011
How is your life treating you?
How is life treating you?
Is your life treating you well? Is your life bringing to you all the things you want? Do you think it’s not in your control?
Well I am here to tell you – It is in your control…. You get to say what is happening in your life. It’s really a choice; it’s really your control, your decision…
Do you think Oprah got to be the most famous female in the world by happenstance? NO she knew what she wanted to do, she got the education she needed, she worked hard, took all the necessary steps each day, each choice, each moment she had her eye on the goal.
All successful people keep their eye on their goals. They make excellent choices; they do what needs to be done each day, each moment. Always looking forward, always keeping moving in the right direction.
This is a skill I have been working hard to learn. To let go of the past and keep my eye on my goal.
It is not always easy to let go of the past, occasionally the “I’m worthless conversation “rears its ugly head, but I have trained myself to catch it and STOP it as quickly as possible. I have my coach Dr. Wood and a few others in my life that are always willing to help me, get past that and get me back on track.
To me it’s very important to have coaches; Dr. Wood is my weight loss/lifestyles coach. I have folks that coach me in business, and in other aspects of my life. Have you ever seen a football team make it to the Super Bowl without an outstanding coach? I sure haven’t.
Decide what you want, enlisted a coach to help you get there, keep making the right choices, and life will bring you what you want and treat you the way you want. It really is that simple.
For me these days the choices involve not only making the right choices on what to eat, but also on the activities that best nurture my body. Choices that will let it heal, and be healthy.
No one walks this journey alone.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Is your life treating you well? Is your life bringing to you all the things you want? Do you think it’s not in your control?
Well I am here to tell you – It is in your control…. You get to say what is happening in your life. It’s really a choice; it’s really your control, your decision…
Do you think Oprah got to be the most famous female in the world by happenstance? NO she knew what she wanted to do, she got the education she needed, she worked hard, took all the necessary steps each day, each choice, each moment she had her eye on the goal.
All successful people keep their eye on their goals. They make excellent choices; they do what needs to be done each day, each moment. Always looking forward, always keeping moving in the right direction.
This is a skill I have been working hard to learn. To let go of the past and keep my eye on my goal.
It is not always easy to let go of the past, occasionally the “I’m worthless conversation “rears its ugly head, but I have trained myself to catch it and STOP it as quickly as possible. I have my coach Dr. Wood and a few others in my life that are always willing to help me, get past that and get me back on track.
To me it’s very important to have coaches; Dr. Wood is my weight loss/lifestyles coach. I have folks that coach me in business, and in other aspects of my life. Have you ever seen a football team make it to the Super Bowl without an outstanding coach? I sure haven’t.
Decide what you want, enlisted a coach to help you get there, keep making the right choices, and life will bring you what you want and treat you the way you want. It really is that simple.
For me these days the choices involve not only making the right choices on what to eat, but also on the activities that best nurture my body. Choices that will let it heal, and be healthy.
No one walks this journey alone.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sunday, March 27, 2011
We all need someone to lean on
We all need someone to lean on
Sometimes in our lives
We all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow
Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won't let show
You just call on me brother, when you need a hand (Chorus)
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on
We all do need someone to lean on once in a while. This week was my turn. On Thursday morning I had surgery on my female parts. (Since my nephews and other guys read this blog I am not going into details here) The surgery was scheduled for 45 minutes and took just over 2 hours. Leaving the hospital every move hurt. The car ride home had me in tears. Once home I wanted the comfort of my own bed, and my heating pad. Which is where I have stayed for the last 4 days. ( Laptops make writing this blog from bed easy)
In life we do not get to choose our families God does that for us. Then God brings people into our lives that become friends, over time they become our own handpicked designed by us family. I am blessed to have both an outstanding family and a great friend family.
I wanted to take a moment to THANK all my friends the meals you have prepared and sent over, your text messages, phone calls, emails, and facebook messages have meant a great deal to me. You all are the greatest.
Sometimes during this journey we need someone to lean on.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
Sometimes in our lives
We all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow
Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won't let show
You just call on me brother, when you need a hand (Chorus)
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on
We all do need someone to lean on once in a while. This week was my turn. On Thursday morning I had surgery on my female parts. (Since my nephews and other guys read this blog I am not going into details here) The surgery was scheduled for 45 minutes and took just over 2 hours. Leaving the hospital every move hurt. The car ride home had me in tears. Once home I wanted the comfort of my own bed, and my heating pad. Which is where I have stayed for the last 4 days. ( Laptops make writing this blog from bed easy)
In life we do not get to choose our families God does that for us. Then God brings people into our lives that become friends, over time they become our own handpicked designed by us family. I am blessed to have both an outstanding family and a great friend family.
I wanted to take a moment to THANK all my friends the meals you have prepared and sent over, your text messages, phone calls, emails, and facebook messages have meant a great deal to me. You all are the greatest.
Sometimes during this journey we need someone to lean on.
Love and Laughter
Hoorah
Terry
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